1. | Jun 29, 2014

Thanks again, Ellen! I know many parents will aprteciape this advice and find it timely.One suggestion I would add is that, when we are giving guidance to our young visitors, we might use a more authoratative voice, and give a request instead of asking questions. If we ask youngster Would you like to pick out one toy? , this gives them an opportunity to say no to us, especially if they are testing their autonomy, as toddlers and preschoolers often do. This can further confound the parenting dilemmas already present. Keeping our requests ( You may pick out one toy to use for now ) and our choices ( Would you like to use the car or the blocks? ) separate makes our authority in our own home very clear and offers guidance without the confusing invitation of do you want to ? . Children are very literal, and while we like to be polite, we should understand that they may not interpret our questions as courtesy, but as an actual choice. Do you ever notice how Mr. Rogers speaks with authority? It's a marvel to watch.Thanks for empowering the mamas! We need this little boost of confidence every mom wants to be in charge of her turf .some of us just feel we need a little permission when it comes to handling the children of visitors and other family members. It's a year-round issue, but this is perfect timing.